Last week, one of the young athletes I work with said something that stuck with me. Not about his swing. Not about a tournament. About his dad. He said: “Sometimes my dad doesn’t even say anything. He just gives me the eyes.” If you’ve spent time around youth sports, you know the look. The one […]
The Eyes: The Silent Pressure Every Young Athlete Feels Read More »
A first-year college baseball player said something to me this week that stopped me. “I’m actually having more fun now… and I’m not even playing.” That wasn’t the case a month ago when we first started working together. A few weeks earlier, baseball had started to feel heavy. So heavy that it led to a
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We talked about competing in a recent session. Not dominating. Not being perfect. Just competing. I’ve been working with him since 2023. Since I’ve known him, he has been dreaming of pitching in a college game. For much of that time, his dream came with high expectations. Self-criticism. Overthinking. A need to be perfect. When
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“Find someone who knows what they’re talking about and cares about what they do.” That’s what the father of a college baseball player said to me on Thursday morning. The implication was that I check those boxes, which is humbling — especially coming from someone who runs a sports academy and coaches for a living.
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I went to a youth piano recital today. One of my best friends invited me to watch his two daughters, 12 and 8, perform. The recital was held in a quaint but professional space inside a performing arts center in Jersey City, just in the shadows of Manhattan. They faced a single grand piano under
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I never expected Miley Cyrus to give me material for a mental-performance lesson… but here we are. If you listen to “Party in the U.S.A.”, you hear a surprisingly relatable story about pressure, uncertainty, and how the right routine can pull you out of your own head. Miley lands in a new, unfamiliar world —
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“I’m in my car because I can’t even be in my house. I live with my teammates.” It was as if my client “Jessica” was hiding out in shame. Jessica was ready to meet again after almost a year away from mental performance coaching. Our very first session was on October 16, 2024 — almost
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I stood next to my client’s father at his son’s fall league basketball game last month. (We’ll call my client “Dr. J.”) As we quietly watched the game move up and down the court, his dad said matter-of-factly: “He’s like a different kid.” We talked about how Dr. J had shifted from focusing on what
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I had that uneasy feeling. You know the one — that knot in your stomach when you’re questioning a decision. I finally carved out time to review my email list. Opens. Clicks. The dreaded (yet inevitable) unsubscribes. As I scrolled, I caught myself fixating on who actually read my story. Clients Friends and family. Strangers
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“I’m sick to my stomach.” A mother told me this on Thursday about her 16-year-old hockey player. He wants to play in college, but the version of him that shows up in games hasn’t matched the one in practice — not in a good way. She and her husband have tried to help, but their
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